I have a Nostr Tor relay, connects to all tthe major relays for you wih no spam

Install Orbot on your phone,
Tell Orbot to use the app
In the nostr app, delete all the relays and add only this one

ws://6xgsnrw6cs7eumqz7az7uyklzoarxljmtfkqkavykopvdbeualuqaxyd.onion