Most of all I want people to do what they need to do to live their best lives. Roya shouldn’t have been subjected to the abuse and trolling that she was. I wish I had come to her defense more often and checked in with her more. She seemed like a master of batting away haters and trolls. I tend to deal with them by subscribing to the notion of “Don’t feed the trolls.” But sometimes a group needs to tell someone their behavior is inappropriate and kindly fuck off. 
At the end of the day protecting one’s peace is so important. Nostr isn’t worth sacrificing a healthy, peaceful state of mind. Roya doesn’t owe us her presence or attention.