You don't have to use the pronoun either. Examine why you feel this way. Do you actually think there's no biggie calling a man "she" or do you fear punishment for not doing so? Calling a man she is the same thing as calling man a woman. Language is made up and gender is made up, it doesn't make language the 
bs same as gender. A woman is a she no matter how she acts and dresses, a man is a he no matter how he acts and dresses, while gender fully depends on how you act and dress.