I went to sleep shortly after that and missed some responses to it, but I didn't feel good about it. I want to elaborate, but I'm afraid of digging a deeper hole. I guess I'll let the chips fall where they may.

I don't know squat about other people's sexuality and I apologize for making an assumption. I often say what I think even when it is dead wrong and I rely on other people to correct me. I apologize.

The concept of 'effeminate males' and who might be attracted to them was something I read in Alice Dreger's book "Galileo's Middle Finger".  When I read it I thought "wow, I never thought of it that way. How sad."  I thought I was being empathetic by mentioning it.

As for my sexuality, sometimes people will say to me "but how can you tell?" I can't. I may well be attracted to a transgender woman. Until I know. Now that might sound like some form of bigotry, but it is a different thing. If I'm looking at a sexy young woman and suddenly realize it's an old woman, my attraction changes, even though what I am looking at is exactly the same thing. I'm not bigoted against old women, but I'm also not attracted to them.

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Claus-Christian-Carbon/publication/264866231/figure/fig3/AS:203360788586502@1425496398320/The-young-old-woman-illusion-also-known-as-the-My-Wife-and-My-Mother-In-Law-illusion.png