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Thanks for the honesty and postmortem (mid-mortem?). So, what can we learn from this?
0) If you want to make a difference, regardless of how right or moral you are, you should probably be more paranoid and careful than you are now. Things could get more authoritarian than they seem now. 
1) Hosting: some options
https://www.privacytools.io/private-hosting
2) Use a reseller or see #1
3) I can understand the legitimate reasons why people use cloud flare, but they are an anathema to privacy and are taking over the web. We need better ways to combat problematic users without the CF goblin. 
4) Either go nostr:npub1j8y6tcdfw3q3f3h794s6un0gyc5742s0k5h5s2yqj0r70cpklqeqjavrvg and cover face (though voice matching is trivial these days) or disassociate your developer self from your legal/official self (though this might preclude invites to conferences—a paradox?)
5) I dunno what to say here. They suck and probably deserve antagonism 
6) Think before you post. Always use a VPN/Tor. Carefully screen images for unintended content and strip metadata for what you post 

⚡️🫡💪 thanks for being open. You are on the front lines currently but we are in this together