whoa... i haven't delved very deeply into this topic, but it seems like you've had a lot of personal experiences with these types of people.
i apologize for my silly comment before...

although, i was listening to something @SimplySarah posted a few days ago and while it wasn't specifically about narcissists, the woman was speaking to the types of people narcissists are attracted to.
it is a wonderful listen full of great insights regarding boundaries and responsibilities. ^.^

i'll share it here just in case you're interested and haven't watched it before:
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