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 Women have always participated in the world. It has only recently become a thing to only consider activities that you get paid for as worthwhile. Children don’t occupy women to the exclusion of all else. Kids are not a shitty deal. And kids grow up. Then you can still do all the ambitious stuff. 
 The way we raise kids now, with one woman alone in a house with toddlers and babies all day, is not at all healthy. It's isolating, it causes depression, etc. Adults need other adults, and intellectual stimulation. 

We need to change our ideas about child raising.  
 We are having our first child soon, and I agree to a degree with some of the issues you mentioned that lifestyle could cause. 

Who are the options for rearing a child?

Parents
Elder relative
Stranger 
 0-7 mother is best.  8-18, nothing better than a father’s tough love. 
 Agreed. Women are happiest when having a bunch of kiddos.  So many unhappy women with few/no kids but are “successful” because they live a man’s lifestyle, and act like men.  Very sad (mostly an urban thing, but that’s 90% of the population now) 
 It’s isolating if you only have one or 2 kids…there is just not enough to keep your brain and body busy.  Have 4,5, or 6 kids…she won’t be bored and lonely