It might just be a latency/connection issue with relays. Sometimes it takes a second for a new relay to connect properly. Nit sure on damus but on amythest you have to hit the save button for it to go through. 

Also, your follower and follows count is maintained by each relay so they are not always accurate from one to the next depending on who else is on (or not on) a particular relay you're connected to. 

My tip is to undo what youve learned from other apps. Follow as many people as you can and then unfollow ppl as you go along if you see any content you don't like in your feeds. 

This is all early tech and the devs here are independent  and often working on their own time/money so it'll be a bit rough around the edges for now.