Of course I can see that perspective! I don’t fear punishment, it’s just that I do care about the people around me and their feelings. I don’t necessarily think that pronouns are the same as calling someone an actual male or female, personally. I can understand folks who use pronouns as if it’s like a “nickname”. I’ll call you by your nickname if it’s preferred but that doesn’t make you any less of your real name, you know? That’s how I think about it I suppose. 

If I don’t know any better though, I’m going by what I see with my eyes. 🤷🏽‍♀️if I can avoid using pronouns I usually just end up using their names instead. If that name is feminine I’m using it even if they’re male. I’m coming at this in the angle that we’re all human and that no language or name will ever suffice to encapsulate the human experience, so stuff like this doesn’t bother me. It’s more about the biological truth of the matter, and an XY can never be an XX, and can never truly have or share womanhood or live as a woman. Do I actually think that a man can REALLY be a “she”,or a woman? of course not. 

My hope for the future is that “she” and “he” are used correlating with birth sex and that people feel no need to stick within rigid gender norms while maintaining their sex pronouns. Men being effeminate, women being masculine, with no need for transition or pronoun change because those expressions of sex are normal parts of being human. But we aren’t there yet (in fact I think trans ideology is reductive in this area, and is making it worse) but I’m not gonna make too much of a fuss about it.