Oddbean new post about login | logout People that allow their toxic family run their lives … why
you only have one life, run it yourself
Yeah. I really don’t get it. Stockholm syndrome or something.
For most people, whatever you grow up with is “normal” — it can take a significant force to break free from that perspective and begin to realize there is an opportunity for greater freedom and fulfillment. My two sats
They’ll put you in an early grave if you’re not careful then sit around crying like they never mistreated you.
Some people don't have access to opportunities to change it unfortunately, especially when it comes to housing in the modern economy. Now yes I understand the whole individual responsibility, take action, etc. argument but initiative only goes so far if there aren't opportunities to help.
Move to where you can afford housing
The average rent in The U.S. is $1,740(*1), let's say The Average McDonald's, or Walmart employee, and somehow has a full time position (unlikely), they're earning $13.05 (*2) to $14.68 (*3). At $13.05 × 40 = $522 × 52 = $27,144 (Annual Pay) $1,740 x 12 = 20,880 (Annual Rent costs) $27,144 - $20,880 = $6,264 left over ÷ 12 = $522 / month to cover everything else. Average grocery costs per month is about $300. So $222 left over to pay taxes, gas, electricity, water, phone bills, college debt, credit cards, car payments, etc. And that's being generous, the reality is more grim for a lot of people. Source 1 (*1): https://www.rentcafe.com/average-rent-market-trends/us/ Source 2 (*2): https://www.indeed.com/cmp/McDonald%27s/salaries Source 3 (*3): https://www.payscale.com/research/US/Employer=Walmart.com/Hourly_Rate
I refuse to participate in my family’s group text because it sounds like they are all still in high school, so I let my wife represent our household in it because apparently my siblings are intimidated by her 🤣
I think my extended family think I'm the toxic one right now 😂 nostr:note1cvxuc6ydh8nvjuzm8lc6qnrqlkejhvflq7s5zlrtf3zpk3k0zwgq8qzkxk
