TIL therapists/psychologists have categorized common individual attachment styles in relationships. I never thought about this before but makes sense. https://i.nostr.build/Mtx2pXpjfjYkAS2y.jpg


Recommend this book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58502657-us

I do not completely agree with everything (he has different definition of individualism than I have, so I needed to translate it in my head during reading), but for relationship and better understanding of partner and even myself (and my own mistakes), it was good. Very very good. And he had similar table in that book, maybe more detailed.


I’ll take a look! I feel like not enough people self reflect enough.


I'm avoidant, don't know how to fix it


i think I’m anxious but trying to move toward secure


I’m ambivalent and trying to move towards secure


Don’t think so much…..


lol can you be multiple?


oh no isa


Onward 🫡

Onward 🫡


you can cut humanity in any arbitrary number if categories no matter how arbitrary they are


freedom unleashed


Someone should do one about social media attachments.


What is more than one category contains thing that won't to you? Are we just considered freaks? I want to be a freak.


I'm anxious I think 🤔. Some quiz say secure some say anxious. A magnet for avoidant people though 🥲😂

AFAIK you can work towards a secure attachment with different strategies:

https://psychology.tips/therapy-for-attachment-issues/

At the end of the day, all comes down to voluntarily facing something we are afraid off. Allways has been, allways will be 💪🏻🫡


Afraid of what we’ll find.


+1, we just got to force ourselves to trust more


i'm secure


I’m situated at vertical black column in the image


Psychology also teaches people that the world is just black and white colour is an illusion while we look around and everything in the world is colorful. These are kind of like drawing somebody an emotionally and psychologically kind of post.


Based on my ex personal experience, I found that people who like to emotionally or mentally draw people, and it’s a form of vampirism, rather than sticking to topic


For example, you know actof terrorism are not funny, there is nothing funny about blowing up 80-year-old child with a pager but you think it’s funny you think it’s funny because the guy who gave you the money thanks it’s funny


Mother fact there are thousands and thousands of people who think what they’re doing to the Palestinian children is actually funny. There’s nothing funny about blowing up at 80-year-old child or a doctor or a teacher with a pager and lack of trust. Trust is actually a good thing because the world is full of educated, illiterate people.


We’re talking about doctors, teachers lawmakers, politicians app, developers celebrities that they think that blown up a child and 80 year-old child with a pager is actually funny


Jack Dorsey think is funny well, Jack door season in a business with a paedophile and a human trafficker, and Jay Z, who allegedly is involved in murder of people, and other guy who gave me $20,000 things is actually funny and there’s nothing funny about it


@detachment   Long term relationship or short term relationship and don’t trust expert/third party including so called psychologist because not only about the person/individual but also place and time for attachment or reattachment in world of full of divorce crisis.


Is there anything more heartwarming than the bond between you and your furry friend? Dogs sure love to, I was wondering how come I change my profile picture and my background and it turned back to this whatever it is


Definitely actually one can.


Can you support my local business? Thank you.


Been studying this for the last decade. I recommend Hold Me Tight and Love Sense as great books intro into this. Great for humans who are parenting children too.


There's also Disorganized which is the most complex.


The fact that these can be mostly determined by your parents is pretty wild


I didn't read the article you shared... But yes I feel it is so crucial for parents to address and heal their attachment wounding so that their kids don't have to spend decades reparenting themselves as well. We now have the tools support and resources that our parents didn't. Raising children on the Bitcoin NOSTR standard includes THIS too massively. I am here for it and I am at your service to provide any support with any of this. :)


I was very excited to see Bessel Van DER Kolk being a speaker and the OFF by nostr:nprofile1qqs0rxy6jmt44guxkny8z4pkym9mxckqxfytygxuntjn6l80hj409sgpzfmhxue69uhky6t5wd6xzcmt9eshquqpzfmhxue69uhhqatjwpkx2urpvuhx2ucpzamhxue69uhkxcfwdaexzmn8v4cxjmrv9ejx2asult5ph
Attachment theory and trauma are such important topics that thankfully are catching up and going mainstream in our society so we can support one another in our individual and collective healing for a brighter future and the legacy we are here to leave. https://image.nostr.build/6f6211e3f37d6a3137fb7beedbb092806c6d526df7935bcd027224ec2560d89b.jpg


Parents do a play part. Environmental triggers, DNA 🧬 trauma has shown it as well. It’s fascinating from the sciences.

Gene altering though … waiting on more research to get proper answers before forming an opinion. 🔬 🙏


TIL therapists/psychologists have categorized common individual attachment styles in relationships. I never thought about this before but makes sense. https://i.nostr.build/Mtx2pXpjfjYkAS2y.jpg