Good question...

"Organized Religion," i.e. "churches" as we know them, are (as your example clearly illustrates) NOT representative of the Kingdom of Jesus/God...

The "church" that represents Jesus (Greek "ecclesia" [ἐκκλησία] ) is a living ORGANISM, NOT a hierarchical "organization." You deal with the egregious entity you've described by avoiding it entirely.  You engage with / form a community with other believers who you KNOW personally and whose lives you observe and interact with in mutually engaging/supporting ways.

If you truly wish to understand this, please read my library of articles, and please give Tom Wadsworth and/or Garth Wiebe a listen:

https://www.tomwadsworth.com/videos

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=az5ZzjqB8I8