The UK just passed hate speech laws. There are kids being subjected to drugs & surgeries in the US. Men are stealing trophies from women in women's sports. This is not made up. Your belief that you are being empathetic is allowing you an many others to be USED to promote & provide cover for things that are destroying basic human rights. It's uncomfortable for you too see because it means you a doing the opposite of what you wanted to do, but continuing to make those mistakes will only make life harder when the ugly truth is no longer possible to avoid.