I think finding the right client initially is a big thing.  I started with amethyst and couldn't really figure it out.  Then I tried primal and loved that it was kind of pre setup like a "traditional" social platform.  Then when I went back to amethyst I was able to see everything/ everyone I wanted with all the cool perks of amethyst.  I have no knowledge of coding so I can't get the full experience of building on nostr but I do think I'm going to try a new client again soon to see what differences it has.  I just have no idea which one to pick!