FWIW I know a lot of folks who definitely do not hate Jews that are sympathetic to the Palestinians. 

There's a difference between laying down weapons for defense (not advisable with so much anger that's built up over the generations) and "laying down weapons" in the sense of not using those weapons to attack. 

Just some reflections on your note but I have no solution. In a lot of big issues I have at least some opinion of what I would do if I were in charge. In this one, I have no idea what I would do.