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IngwiePhoenix | 5 months ago (raw) | export | reply | flag +3 
 Whenever I see talk about onboarding new users, I giggle a little. This is coming from people that are very deep in the system and network.
I did some light A/B testing, by bringing friends over. Both times, they ended up not using it anymore - the latter even got harrassed on their very first note because they shared their furry art. Cool, very welcoming. x)
Onboarding isn't the biggest issue (but definitively one). There is a slightly bigger one that people in a bubble are prone to overlooking (me included). Can you see it?
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realjode | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Definitely a need to welcome new users and give a helping hand. I could do more here myself. 
I’m not sure I’m seeing the same issue , I have noticed with the expansion of my bubble I have lost contact with users I really enjoyed interacting with and gained new ones that seem to replace them. 
I was thinking maybe it’s something to do with the #nostr or even my nature that I cannot consistently and reliably interact with more , it’s like a glass ceiling. Maybe there’s a solution?
Maybe I’m doing it all wrong?
Maybe it’s a common thing?
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6b355c1b | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 How do I start a new post
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realjode | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 On #damus I have a purple button + bottom right. Use @ to tag users and # for tagging groups. 
You could reply to this using the #asknostr and # with your client for more help with your client. 🫂
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IngwiePhoenix | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 Nah - keeping in touch on social media is an on and off thing. Take me and Laeserin for instance (can't @-ping on #Rabbit bleh). I've been following her since almost as long since joining Nostr; but we don't talk regularily - yet, we cross paths once in a while and she even pinged me about a german nostr meetup; we do "know" each other, in that sense. Likewise, I used to interact a lot with a guy going by Akito whom I haven't seen in forever - they might have left Nostr already. People come and people go - kind of the nature of an SNS. Basically, picture a staircase with the label "level of closeness". Not super accurate but:
- Social media: You see people in the pulic, say hi, see them once in a while and talk. They're a familiar face.
- Group chat (i.e. Discord server, Telegram group): You know those people rather well and have turned people that you know from passing by into people that you talk quite frequently now, even "outside the street".
- Direct message (Signal, SimpleX, ...): That person is very much a friend. Sometimes DMs are also temporary and a result of an SNS interaction but not too common. This is what I would consider the highest step on the staircase; you are probably close friends by now.
Again, not super accurate, but at least how I feel about it and how I have experienced it since ~20 years of internet. x)
So don't worry; what you are experiencing is quite common I would think. ^^
The best thing you can do is this: Bring your own little bit of variation. Post things you enjoy, welcome new users when you spot them and offer them a helping hand - and if you do see some kind of toxicity in the replies, make sure to showcase the users that not everybody on the platform is a butt. First impressions matter so much. :)