No need to shut up!! I love words and think it’s okay to wrestle with them. You’re being kind by showing others grace and you don’t want people to be excluded. That’s nice 😊 

I try to avoid labeling things good and bad. It’s too objective and devoid of nuance. Because you see nice as good you naively misjudged that person as someone whose opinion should matter. It happens to all of us. I kinda think that’s one of the things that will harden a persons heart. You protect yourself from those people by understanding kindness is the sheep’s clothing. The sheep are kind. 

People who have to act nice or make sure they are nice are the wolves. They don’t want to be exposed so they cloak themselves in pleasantries. They get in good with kind people and eventually hurt them. 

Life is too short and peace is too hard to come by to spend time learning other people. I truly believe a person will tell you exactly who they are and how to treat them if you pay attention and listen. Sure, they may be awesome people but that doesn’t necessarily entitle them access to you.