One of the most freeing things to realize is, no one has any obligation to measure up to our preferences or expectations. Nor you to theirs. Then you realize you are free to make voluntary connections with others, or not, and take them as they happen with open hands.
This is an essential truth of any lightning node operator. You are free to associate (or not) as you wish. nostr:nevent1qqs0q5spvyyzmdk8j0vu4qawwwvjajw03gu6ndzj52g5c7edjp89kwgpz3mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfdupzqcgxv5zxzlh8jwrsy8scez0m08gam0p700l3nneznr6qgehcw90fqvzqqqqqqye2qfp8