Is it a right to vanish or a request to be forgotten ?  

One puts a level of ownership on the posts of a creator … the other provides the opportunity for hosts to let data expire. 

I know it’s splitting hairs. But we can’t control how we’re received. We can only put out the signals on how we want to be remembered 

 Its a request.

https://github.com/nostrability/nostrability/issues/71