The whole situation is very very sad.
As someone who has first hand experience with Russia and it's imperialism we simply all have totally different views.
I can totally understand that someone behind the ocean doesn't want to pay for this war or even actively fight it.
But as you said to believe Russian propaganda is just very very naive.

There is no good choice in this, there never was, it is fucking war! There will be always people killed and lives ruined. But I think we as "the west" have chosen the worst option of them all. We either should support UA much more strongly from the start and push Putin diplomatically etc. or we should let him swallow UA without fight and prepare for next war. We have chosen something in the middle which means people are dying in endless war and yet at the end it may happen Russia will emerge victorious and looking for other target & we here in Europe will not be ready.