While I was dating, I was very picky.
I had no desire to be a mom with a husband who babysits. I wanted a father to my children!
When I met my now husband, he talked about wanting to live off of passive income in order to be able to stay home with his kids, to be able to drop everything and go on adventures or simply play with them whenever they wanted. To be involved in homeschooling them.
I needed less than 68 days from the first date to know I had found someone amazing and worth going into a life long covenant with, and married him on that day!

Mom's never have to give up everything to be a mom, and some women's highest desire is to be a mom, but there's always more to life. However, those of us who want a more rounded life can totally gave that, if we pick good men who wants to be dads!
Make being a dad cool again.
But also, women have a huge role in saying what she wants, making deals instead of just complaining, telling him why she wants certain things and how they contribute to her.
If you tell a man how he can win with you, and praise him when he does those things, he'll wanna do them without you ever needing to ask again, but it's okay always good to still ask, as you're inviting him into intimacy.