My son's best friend was a child conceived in rape.  The mom didn't want to kill him, but didn't think she could raise him right if he looked like her rapist.  He was adopted by a loving, Christian family that has given him their all.  I don't see anything bad about that.  Just because there are true problems in our system doesn't mean adoption is bad in itself.  I know lots of families who adopted kids, including up to 4 who were related (so they could stay together) because their parents left them or were sent to jail.  They are amazing loving families and you can't tell the kids are adopted.  I'm sorry your experience was different.