Logic like beauty is in the eye of the beholder. As well as it depending on the limitations of an individuals consciousness to grasp abstract concepts through deductive reasoning. What is logical to you may not be logical to others. The problem we face is that so many people are forcing their ideals upon others and demanding conformity to their perspectives. Which if you think about it is the ultimate form of irony. That the ones who are supposedly about individuality, being unique, and that it is ok to be different. Are the ones historically most violently demanding us all to conform and play by their rules. In a game where not even they can all collectively agree on. Which is being played while the rules change daily! Its like a woke cultural soap opera. Miss one episode and dont keep up to date on all the complicated details of the show. Then you have no idea what the fuck is going on when you missed last week's episode.
I would not say that queer culture has historically been violently demanding people to play by thier rules. Even a brief study of western history will tell quite the opposite tale. A tale of cis-gendered heterosexual, Christian purity culture dominating western culture and enforcing its edicts via the law and violence of the state.
Why cant both be true? Pretty sure we could play tennis back and fourth with examples that validify both viewpoints. Im a recovering Roman Catholic myself. No stranger to the brainwashing there. Same concept for both, but just in different ends of the spectrum. Wherein one is brainwashed via culture infilitration, hijacking, and manipulation. The other brainwashed through religious doctrine that is drilled into since birth. Both have a lot of deprogramming and therapy required to achieve a better quality of life with a firmer grasp on facts based on reality. Not feelings.
I think the problem is that you are using terms differently. When you say "queer" you mean am umbrella term which you defined above, but the term is generally used to mean Marcusean Neo-Marxists who use human sexuality as a wedge to attempt the creation of a new proletariat to advancethe socialist revolution. The way you use the term, you are correct, but I think you would agree that socialists, especially of the Marxist variety, have a history of violently demanding that people play by their rules.
If I meant the Marcusean Neo-Marxists I would say exactly that, or I would say socialists. Thats not at all what I am talking about. And while there is a ton of queer and socialist overlap, they are not one and the same. Not at all. I, and many others, are living proof of that.