So true that this space is in constant flux. I use Amethyst on graphene phone. Started out with alby, cause Nostr Wallet connect made it easiest. But then alby sent an email that they would be deprecating their custodial wallets eventually. Tried alby hub, but my laptop doesnt stay on always, so that didnt work well. I have found 2 wallets that have Nostr Wallet Connect integrated. One is Minibits, which works ok, just seems a little laggy, but it does work. The other, the one i'm currently using, is Coinos. I have it connected to amethyst with NWC, and its working pretty well except my incoming zaps are not showing up on amethyst. But they do show up in my coinos wallet. I have messaged the coinos dev about this, and he's checking into it. So for now its coinos for me.
I understand flux, but just getting started bit by bit spread out over weeks when you can't dedicate 4 straight hours to (you know because I have work and side gigs and local anarchist community shit to do), makes things harder. I'm also on Graphene and there's nothing like that to prove just how many permissions lots of apps (related to this) are requested and required by some, not to mention incompatibility sometimes. If I could get Alby running that'd be ideal because I'm less mobile and more desktop. I'll keep looking. I looked up Coinos but I think I got lost.