nostr:npub1gmx4vz0z4waf3ff40j7vdy7stdn4c0gne6lkd0pwtae46lzph4mqajatcq Honestly the thing that gets me, is why does it matter so much to them?

You don't know my accent until I speak, you might not be right about pronouns until I say, so what?  Unless you are aiming to sleep with me, why does this inform your behavior to such a degree as to cause this level of distress?