humbug... it is too late in the day to do any work
i have one more bug in the binary tag encoding it seems... something causing a off-by-one that eats the first byte of the length prefix for the content field
i think i'll nail it tomorrow but no idea how many more glitches i'm going to find
so far it's all been about the tags... and i quite thoroughly rewrote them today fixing the other errors
will be nice when it's fully fixed though, pretty sure this has been the source of errors with clients not getting data out of the relay
and yes, i already updated wss://nostr.realy.lol to the latest version with some of the fixes so it's a bit better... but still it's mangling stuff, so, manyana