Don't let these influensooor confuse you. The privacy you can achieve on nostr is much, much, much higher than on any other common platform running on top of internet. 
Your identity is pseudonymous, and you can create and burn as many as you want without anyone's permission, it's friendly to vpns, tor or any form of proxy you can think of. You can run your own infrastructure if you want, you can even create a mesh network or local relays to use nostr in your community/village or whatever without needing internet...
I use nostr with a vpn and by connecting to my own relay multiplexer that proxies my connection for me to read and write to the relays I want, this runs on a vps that I paid for with bitcoin and without having to leave my data on a third party service...
It's clear that if you don't use a vpn, tor or any other kind of proxy, by default you expose your IP to all the relays you connect to, but the same rule applies to the whole internet, just change the relay by server or website.
I can't really think of an alternative that beats this.

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