Yeah It’s disrespectful to the dude 100%

BUT what they are doing is likely a symptom/effect, not the true cause of their problems. 

It’s up to HIM to hold his frame and be the man she needs him to be, and he must communicate his boundaries clearly and promptly to her. He needs to step up and be the one to fix things (or arrange to be fixed). She needs to feel like she can rely on him.

I’m of course missing a lot of the story here because we are only hearing his perspective, but I’m willing to bet that if he’s been disrespected like this it is likely because: 1) he doesn’t love/respect himself enough to command such respect from others let alone his partner, 2) he is not someone people admire or she does not think he is worthy of admiration. Her actions are the indication.

Unfortunately I think many men make the mistake of thinking they deserve to be respected for whatever reason like putting a ring on someone but nope, respect and admiration are earned, not demanded from anyone.