I think (as usual) that more relay de-commodification will help with this. This is counter-intuitive, because it means that for each use case there are one or two choke points that handle most traffic.

- Looking for a profile? Use purplepag.es or relay.nostr.band
- Searching? Nostr.land or relay.nostr.band
- Looking for safe notes from your network? Use a wot relay

A new category of relay might be "newcomers welcome, spam managed by heuristics". A relay that's really good at assessing whether notes by a fresh pubkey are worth showing. Clients then would hard-code this relay when publishing notes from newcomers or fetching notes from new accounts, just like they already do for search/indexer relays.

Obviously, it would be ideal for many instances of each relay type to exist, and for discovery of these relays to be automatic rather than hard-coded, and I think we can get there, but it will probably require defining these use cases and advertising support for them via nip 11 or something.

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