we are all so dumb about it anyways, so wouldn't it be better to do a WoT on client devs and their choices vs we are trying to figure out the right relays for this inbox, that inbox, this public, that private, this general, this free, that paid. 

If all clients offered a beginners set up and then had a section where you can start adding what you want would be lovely for people who dont actually care or know how.