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Another aspect, that practioners often talk about but the general public does not, is that while many clients come seeking love and acceptance (like our dear nostr:nprofile1qqs0wwqvz8m2grrks8fxv8hkqxunqkv3zsdkhaz66uzctkju6hr4maqpzemhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wd68ytnzv9hxgqgjwaehxw309ac82unsd3jhqct89ejhxqg4waehxw309a6xjemn9ehx7um5wgcjucm0d54tmv7f), others are after social status, or power over other people in their lives through a diagnosis.

Very hard to fix someone who is determined to become more broken. And is valorised by our culture for it.

I do think many of the darker trends in the modern West are second-order ramifications of the interplay between the misaligned incentives of clients and those of therapists.

People do need more love and acceptance in their lives, but many also need to take the "men will do anything to avoid therapy" meme and play it backwards.