Masters say that practicing zen (ie meditation) brings you to the realization that the 'you' you're referring to doesn't actually exist. The goal of zen is to find out who you really are. Let go of the idea of you (which is really a delusion) and instead, experience the real you. The real you is calm, peaceful, pretty much unflappable (equanimous).

How? Let go of judging - liking and disliking, thinking this is good, this is bad. Don't attach to these discriminations. All done through meditation (often called Training - training of the mind). When these thoughts and feeling come into your mind, let them go, and focus your mind back to your mediation object - something like your breath. Eventually, you will become master of your own mind.

As you train, remoteness can help, but monasteries can also full of things you don't like, because you can't run away from your own thoughts. So, making a remote retreat in your daily life, eg, silent 45min meditation early in the morning before others awake, can work very well.